11/04/16 "I AM SORRY," DOES NOT PAY THE BILL
Cheap apologies (which are based in duty or obligation or appearance or social expectation) are surface and useless. Sorrow that comes from guilt feelings or social pressure does not reach across broken relationships or span personal violations of another person's space.
It takes heart felt, life changing sorrow to mend broken relationships, whether with other people or with God. Anything less than true repentance is a rotten band aid on gaping wound. It only gives the appearance of an attempt to heal, but actually aggravates the condition and mocks the relationship.
2 Corinthians 7:9-11
(9) Now I am glad, not that you had sorrow, but that your sorrow was the cause of a change of heart; for yours was a holy sorrow so that you might undergo no loss by us in anything.
(10) For the sorrow which God gives is the cause of salvation through a change of heart, in which there is no reason for grief: but the sorrow of the world is a cause of death.
(11) For you see what care was produced in you by this very sorrow of yours before God, what clearing of yourselves, what wrath against sin, what fear, what desire, what serious purpose, what punishment. In everything you have made it clear that you are free from sin in this business.
Relationships with friends and family often go unhealed because violators will not yield to godly sorrow.
