It isn't enough for your words to say the right thing to someone, you should project a pleasant and humble and loving demeanor.
It isn't enough to say the right thing, with a pleasant and humble and loving demeanor, it should come from a pure and tender heart.
It isn't enough to say the right thing, with pleasant and humble and loving demeanor, arising from a pure and tender heart, you need to respond in love when the other person treats you like garbage.